Thursday, January 26, 2012

This is love.......



EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD READ THIS:

"♥Love her …when she sips on your coffee or tea. She only wants to make sure it tastes just right for you. 

♥Love her…when she "pushes" you to pray. She wants to be with you in Jannah (Paradise). 

♥Love her…when she asks you to play with the kids. She did not "make" them on her own...

♥Love her...when she is jealous. Out of all the men she can have, she chose you 

♥Love her…when she has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You have them too.


♥Love her…when her cooking is bad. She tries.(But Yours is just awesome) 

♥Love her…when she looks disheveled in the morning. She always grooms herself up again. 

♥Love her…when she asks to help with the kids homework. She only wants you to be part of the home. 

♥Love her...when she asks if she looks fat. Your opinion counts, so tell her she's beautiful. 

♥Love her…when she looks beautiful. She's yours so appreciate her. 

♥Love her...when she spends hours to get ready. She only wants to look her best for you. 

♥Love her…when she buys you gifts you don't like. Smile and tell her it's what you've always wanted.


♥Love her…when she has developed a bad habit. You have many more and with wisdom and politeness you have all the time to help her change. Love her…when she cries for absolutely nothing. Don't ask, tell her its going to be okay 

♥Love her…when she suffers from PMS. Buy chocolate, rub her feet and back and just chat to her (trust me this works!) 

♥Love her…when whatever you do is not pleasing. It happens and will pass 

♥Love her…when she stains your clothes. You needed a new kurta anyway

♥Love her…when she tells you how to drive. She only wants you to be safe. 

♥Love her…when she argues. She only wants to make things right for both 

♥Love her…she is yours. You don't need any other special reason!!!! 

All this forms part of a Woman's Character. Women are part of your life and should be treated as the Queen. 

• Treat the women well

Saturday, January 14, 2012

Kargill : Freedom at inhospitable terrain



Kargill , drass, batalik, kagsar – a decade ago these were just names in the Indian terrain of jammu and Kashmir and then things were never the same again. These names are now synonomous with sacrifice, honour, pride, respect earned by hard means and the supreme sacrifice of 531 brave men of the Indian army.

“ फ़ौज में कमीशन लेते वक़्त भी मैंने कसम खायी थी , इस मिट्टी की कसम भी खायी थी जिसमें खेल कर मेरा बचपन जवान हुआ है , उन 84 करोड़ भाई बहनों की भी कसम खायी थी जो मेरे साथ साथ बड़े हुए हैं और उस हिमालय की कसम भी खायी थी जो पिछले 5000 सालों से मेरे वतन की सरहदों की हिफाज़त कर रहा है ” – Sunny deol , border

What do you do when the same defenders are threatened? You answer the call against external aggression beyond your own capability. Kargill was one such “ war” which united the nation and maybe it made me what I am today – the person with a single belief “Nation first”. I remember very well that I was in class 10th when kargill happened. First of all it all seemed like the small firing which goes on between border outposts. Simply put I had no clue as to what was going on. These were just unpronounceable names to me then. Things and my world came crashing down when I first heard and read reports of soldiers returning home wrapped in tricolours. 

One thing which made my mind go into an overdrive- induction of the air force. These lethal flying machines, my biggest weakness , made me realize that something was seriously wrong. With helicopter gunships evading stinger hits, mig 21s being shot down, mirage 2000 striking ordanance at icy heights, rockets being fired in perfect harmony with the big daddy of all field guns- the 155 mm bofors shells. It was all getting messy at the most hostile of terrains. Live tv brought the images like never seen before and the first time in my life I felt my own existence threatened. It was my chemistry teacher who had asked the practical files to be covered with only newspapers. A move that I do not understand even today. 

And this image was what was there at the front of my file. 155 mm shells and rockets being fired at enemy positions at night. In my free time, whether be at the school or at home I used to just gaze at this picture and thoughts just used to flash by – whats happening to the soldiers?? will they ever return to their homes?? Will they be alive?? Will some of them be able to live their normal lives as before?? Why I am so helpless that I cant do anything for them?? Only god knows that how I spent those days and nights. When victory was achieved , I was the happiest of the lot but a firm resolve had grown in my mind – I am against every nation that’s against my country. Names aside but I don’t talk to the people from those countries even today, let alone try for friendship. Might seems to be a childish thought but that would remain with me till I live. I tried everything I could on my part – depositing all my savings into the defence fund, raising funds for the soldiers, you name it and I have done it all. Monetary part aside but I always wanted to tell the families of the martyrs one thing “ I am thankful to you and your son`s sacrifice as its because of him that I am able to breathe free air”.

I tried in vain contacting the families of the soldiers but really did not knew where to start. Then came a blessing in disguise 10 years after kargill. 

“ Mummy papa by the time you get this letter I would be observing you all from the sky enjoying the hospitality of the apsaras.” 

These famous lines are from the letter Capt. Vijyant Thapar wrote to his family before going on a mission. These remain etched in my mind all these years alongwith the famous lines during that war. In 2009 , on the occasion of the decade of kargill war, a hindi newspaper published the interview of the father of capt. Vijyant. This gave me a chance to reach out to him and I wrote a 12 line email to him ( the toughest 90 minutes of my life as my eyes would not dry up and I just kept on crying) telling him what such sacrifices meant to me. Not expecting any reply I was satisfied that I had reached out to the family of one such braveheart and let them know that supreme sacrifices do not go waste. But god had other plans, the next day I received a reply from the couple. I was overjoyed and that letter is “the most” treasured item I have in my life. My life is still going on the same mission – I wish to personally thank the families of each of the remaining 530 bravehearts.

Every night just a few lines go through my mind before sleeping . “ I am sleeping peacefully because somebody out there is waking up for me”. Its not just the infantry I am thankful to. Its every branch of the defence services to whom I cant reach out. The nation takes priority over everything for me. I guess that’s where my patriotism comes from – the gratitude towards some people. For the soldiers from me – “if you feel somewhere that you are alone and you need support, look behind and i`ll be standing behind your back”.

There are some unspoken emotions and feelings which I cant express in words. I can simply get up, salute them with utmost respect and just say ,
“JAI HIND”.

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Jaipur diaries: The republic day which created history



"Jaanta to hamesha tha magar pata nahin kyun maine pehle kabhi is tarah socha nahin tha ki main hindustaani hoon. I am an Indian.” – Hrithik roshan , Lakshya.

This feeling dawns on you on only 2 occassions – either you don the olive green uniform ( white or sky blue as the case may be) or be within the vicinity of the tricolour. Raise your head, see the flag fluttering and you realise the power and magic of this piece of cloth coloured in saffron, white, navy blue and green. Numerous bravehearts have given their lives to safeguard the honour of this flag.

People say that sometimes somethings just start from somewhere and things just happen. My hostel 4/107 was famous for being just different. We had 8 people with 8 different personalities living under one roof. Our unanimous decisions were final. They never changed. I still remember vividly that it was a Sunday on the 25th of January 2009. Ajay(singh), Prashant(lal), Me (Shwetabh) and Charan (Ratish) were sitting in my room. In between some talks, ajay came up with a line, “Kal jhandaa fehraate hain hostel mein”. All of us looked at each other and although neither of us spoke anything, our eyes conveyed that one word which our heart was speaking loudly- YES…. Deep down inside I thanked Bobby Jindal for making the dream possible for every Indian to hoist the flag. Just to let everyone know what we were planning , ajay went to Bengali (Ritwik) , yogesh and Taufeez bhai to let them know that it was going to be done.

I was damn pleased to be a part of history and do something which never had been done in the history of the hostels of IRM. We would be the Trendsetters, something which no one had thought before and done. The excitement or patriotism as I should put as the most appropriate word was sky high. We knew we had to do it. There was no backing off. A rough draft was planned for the next morning – hoist the flag on the terrace, dress up and then go to the flag hoisting at the institute. Our flag had the priority. Our hostel was meticulous and a bit tight when it came to contri , but surprisingly for this one thing we surely had no limits on our wallets and we didn`t mind spending. Like in reality , there is a difference between drawing board planning and final execution. When the initial euphoria simmered down a bit, I realized that things might have to be aborted a bit because of the general lazy attitude of my hostelmates. I knew that talking and taking a consensus would be something that would take time. The best way was to just do that. I just took out my phone and called up my cousin sister and asked her about the nearest Khaadi Bhawan, the only authorized govt. outlet to sell the tricolour.

The location which she told me was in the main city market, some 20-25 kms from my hostel although I knew that I had seen a khaadi bhawan nearby , some 5-7 kms from my hostel when I used to come by bus from my relatives house. Another fear was that it being a Sunday , it might be closed. Carrying a prayer on my lips I called up Prashant and told him straight , “ Lets go and get the flag, now that my mind is made up about the ceremony, I would not back off and would surely give you the curses of your lives if the others do that.” He grabbed the bike keys , I hopped on to the pillon and made an announcement to the hostelmates , “ Hum jhanda le kar hi wapas aayenge”. We started off amidst the shouts of “Vande mataram” from ajay and charan shouting from behind. The size of the flag might prove to be an issue but we thought that we would see that once we reach the store. Much to the joy of us both, the nearest Khaadi bhawan was open. The next burning question, “ Kahin khatam to nahin ho gaya??”. With republic day the next morning we were not the only ones seeking flags. We entered the shop as if it was a temple or a shrine, with high hopes. The moment the shopkeeper said “ We have the stock”, both prashant and me just smiled to each other.

Confused about the size, we asked him to show us the 3 immediate sizes stating that it was to be hoisted at the terrace, lest it should give him the idea about the size we were looking. Choosing the medium size we left the shop and began looking the next big requirement- the pole for the flag. We decided that the best place for this would be a hardware store where we might find the pole of a suitable length. We found a hardware store in the main market near our institute. With no idea whether we wanted a plastic one or a bamboo, I went up to the shop keeper and asked him to give us a pole . When he heard that the purpose was for hoisting a flag, he showed us a bamboo pole which was just perfect, and he didn’t charge a penny…. Next stop – a general store to buy some Roli for the teeka for the next morning. While I waited for prashant near the bike while he made the purchase, holding the bamboo and the flag , I noticed some known faces of girls approaching me. When they came near then did I realize that it was Nandita and her hostelmates. Seeing me cluthing the pole, the obvious question was “whats happening?” and I felt proud when I told them, “that’s the flag and its gonna be hoisted tomorrow at our hostel”. Wishing me luck, they went away. When prashant came back an idea just came into my mind and I just blurted out , “Lets make some arrangements for sweets”. We had a sweet shop in the main market and we had to request, even bribe the shop owner to prepare fresh sweets and give it to us specially 7.30 the next morning considering the market opened at around 9 in the morning. 

Mission accomplished. We drove off back to the hostel considering all that we had achieved in these 2.30 hours. Plus it was about time for our 5 p.m. daily cricket match at the hostel. We reached the hostel with huge grins on our faces and shouted , “Mil gaya…….”. Both Bengali and charan came rushing out from the room and they were all smiles. My and prashant`s work of getting all necessary things was done and it was left to the rest of the team to deliver now. Charam found out some spare metallic J hooks which would hold the pole in place. 4 of us – Me, prashant, charan and Bengali came up the terrace and started scouting the perfect place for the flag. We decided a side wall would be great. Once we tried out the preparation, all hoped for the next morning. Later on that night prashant dug out his mp3 collection and took out all patriotic songs he had. Even I had decided the dress code for that day. An orange t shirt, bottle green pants, topped with a blue denim jeans – the colour combo of the tricolor. I knew that I would be questioned at the insti the next day , it was all left for the next day. We all played our match with an increased rigour. The next morning I woke up without the need for an alarm. Much earlier by our “holiday” standards – 7 a.m. I started getting ready and in the meanwhile jolted all of them awake- “Utho be, time ho gaya hai. Chalo taiayaar hona shuru karo”. 

Had it been any other day I would had been subject to angry glares but not this time. We all got ready by 9 and in the meanwhile prashant went and got the “sweet” delivery. The real shock came 15 minutes later on when we had our neighbours dropping by – the hostel wallahs of 4/191. Sanjay and his hostel showing up. They all had come for the flag hoisting. Later on I came to know that quite a few of the hostels had decided that they would all come to our hostel , attend the ceremony and then proceed to the institute. 

Wanting to treasure the moment I setup the recording of the ceremony on my laptop capturing as much as possible and informed ritwik that he should be mindful so as to not obstruct the view the webcam. The teeka happened to everyone coming for the ceremony. A few moments later, all of them joined in the mood. Nirmal and prashant began setting up the playlist just like sound technicians do at the wedding. In the meantime all the others started posing with the flag.

Amit showed up followed by Madhukar and Nitesh. Our neighbours started watching the proceedings with awe- so many people at a single hostel, songs playing in the background, they knew something was up for the first time as we rarely had such a huge gathering. The songs were an awesome lot.. We used up quite a few-

Desh mere desh mere from the legend of bhagat singh to start off the proceedings

Zindagi maut na ban jaye from sarfarosh

Nanha munna rahi hoon

Maa tujhe salaam and a host of others…

After the national anthem we ended on a high cry of “Bharat maata ki jai” on the top of our lungs , ready to prove to the neighbourhood that we had an awesome ceremony. Glancing at the watches, we rushed on the bikes to the institute ready to attend another one. By the time we got there it was all underway but we didn’t care as our private small gathering was much good than this grand function. When it all ended, I was asked a simple question by a faculty “ Shwetabh, your dress”…and I was ready with a answer, “ My clothes resemble the colours of the flag and nobody should have problems with the flag…I wear the love for the nation up my sleeve, Jai Hind”…. The faculty knew that it was impossible to argue with me on some issues.

The day of 26 january 2009 went down in history. Ours was and is probably the only hostel to have a flag hoisting ceremony. It was an initiative of 107 and we did it. Everyone had their bit in contributing to the history….Me, prashant, ajay, ritwik, charan, yogesh, taufeez bhai and the people who attended it with the same zeal and enthusiasm as we had planned the whole thing- sanjay and his hostelmates, amit, madhukar, nitesh. It was a proud moment for all those who attended it. Those preparations , shopping of the previous day, the proceedings of the next morning and those valuable 16 mins captured in a video film….all. Word spread like wildfire to the other hostels who could not attend the ceremony that we had accomplished something. The flag was removed properly before sunset in accordance with the respect it deserved. The flag is with Prashant all these years. Its an exclusive property of us and would keep on circulating between us – till eternity. The video film remains with me in multiple locations in my pc , laptop so I may never loose sight of it. Due to some technical problems it would never be published.

Who said that only defence personnel understood the meaning of the flag?? Ask us and we`ll tell you in your own way..JAI HIND…..

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Jaipur diaries: A "Special" movie which brings smiles till date


“Abey mummy ka phone aa gaya to??Main kya kahoonga? Mujhse mummy se jhooth nahin bola jaa sakta.main nahin aa raha”. This is not a line from any movie between 2 people regarding anything….you surely thought about that one. Didn`t you?? Ha ha ha …so wrong. That’s a real life situation which happened. The one speaking this line is Anshul and it was spoken some 3 years back during the first day night screening of Rab ne bana di jodi. This movie has so many memories that we both laugh over it so many times, everytime, eachtime.

The situation was most deadly dangerous equally. 3rd sem exams just one week away , prep leave going on, preparation overall 0 % , forget about the first paper preparation. The starter was a dangerous Consumer Behaviour. Jab apna behavior hi samajh nahin aata to consumer ka behavior kya pata chalega? Bhagwaan bharose.Even a studious ( labeled by others) student like me had no preparation. I just dint know what to do and all. So the story started with 3 people initially(more to join later)- Anshul(Sharma), Sushant (Mandal), Me(Shwetabh Mathur) and indirectly Prashant (Lal). It had been just a week or so since he had downloaded the songs of Rab ne bana di Jodi.One song was played day and night in the hostel – “Tujh mein rab dikhta hai”…agreed, the song was melodious but repeat mode mein bhi dimaag to kharaab to ho hi jaata hai. I was seriously tired of listening to the song over the last few days but was curious to know how was the movie once it released . Me and mandal had made plans to watch the movie in the night show over numerous cups of evening tea. Both wanted a stress buster. The movie hall was just 5 mins walking distance from our hostel gates. We chose the night 10 o clock show, neither late, neither early. Then came anshul ki call and he too came on board. At night we all 3 met at the hall entrance. Anshul was a bit late at that time and we had purchased the tickets already. When we told him the time , he said “Abey mummy ka phone aa gaya to, kya kahoonga?? Daant padegi….nahin nahin mujhe nahin dekhni picture”. I and mandal both looked at each other and burst out laughing…An mba student saying such things… it was a hearty laugh.

The movie started and we all started watching it. Then came a call which anshul had been dreading- Aunty had called. His face had turned so white , it looked like he had seen a ghost. On the screen he was seeing a girl he had fallen in love with at first sight ( Anushka Sharma) and on the other hand he had a call. God knows what he told his mother but he came back within 2 mins and we enjoyed the story as it progressed. In between came the comments between him and me..”Kya lag rahi hai bhai, dekhte hi pyar ho gaya apun ko to”. I knew I was deviating from my Katrina but I was totally spellbound by her. She looked a total stunner. We thoroughly enjoyed it…around 12.30 we all came out analyzing the songs and anushka. Me and mandal reached the road from where we would turn left towards our hostels and anshul had still a long way to go (some 750 mts) via some shortcuts through residential colony. We said good night to him and he just stood there….the next line which we both heard, “arrey yaar mujhe mere room tak chodd kar aa jaa yaar. Darr lag raha hai”. Now this was 2 in 2 in a singe night from him. I could have escorted him had it been daytime but at night in the coming January chill I was not in the mood to walk 1.5 kms. Plus I wanted to get back to sleep and dream about Anushka. I said goodbye to anshul and started to walk. He just kept on calling me. I could sense the fear in his voice. 

The next day we both met at a coffee joint along with some other friends.4 days were left and we had some progress with preparations. But still we had Anushka somewhere on our minds. The songs were melodious, the performances good and the romance sweet. Me and anshul and were discussing the movie and that caught the attention of Ajay (Khanna). We heaped such genuine praise of the movie that he became interested in watching it.

We got another opportunity to watch it and we both got ready once gain. Haath aaye mauke kaun chodta hai? I came back and informed my hostel mates that I might be late in returning. They were bit surprised that what I was upto in this time of the exams when all hell would loose in 4 days. So the situation became – The same movie back to back in 2 days, with me and anshul remaining the same companions while the other people kept on changing. Anshul`s room mate dheeraj also came along to watch it.This time anshul had the bike with him so he was not afraid this time around. I stayed at Khanna`s room that night, Too tired to walk to my hostel. In the morning when I reached my hostel , I faced the same ques. from the hostelmates which normally a girl faces from her parents when she arrives late. I promised myself no more movie anymore otherwise I will flunk. Sems went underway and we had cleared 4 papers (back to back exams are tough). The paper was on a Saturday and so I was relaxed and instead of rushing to the hostel went to the computer lab to check the mails. Some mischievious thought crept into my mind and I messaged anshul knowingly very well that he was smitten by Anushka, “ RAB NE BANA DI JODI once again?”. It was fun but damn….20 mins later he called me up and said that he is ready….Apun ne to mazaak kiya tha, yeh to saala sach mein serious ho gaya. Tried talking to him and khanna but both were not ready to listen and I thought ki ab to baji band..now the excuse of paper wont be handy as the next day was a Sunday. So we got ready to go- Once again. Our team comprised of Me, Anshul, Khanna, Kg(Kumar Gaurav). As we had all visited the same movie hall 2 times for the same movie a change in venue was needed. The winner was EP which was within a 5-6km radius which meant bikes had to go. We had no helmets for any of the 4 people, the bikes were on reserve fuel, just enough cash to buy a bit tad expensive tickets as compared before, no cash for petrol and fine if got caught by traffic police.(the jaipur police is really hard on the helmet rule). Khanna and anshul were on one bike and me and kg on the other. So at night you have 2 bike going to a movie hall with nothing working in our favour. We used all possible bylanes to bypass the main roads, traffic signals, intersections where we could land in trouble with the cops.

Navigating and we reached our destination and waited for the other bike to come. Both of them arrived 10 minutes later finding shortcuts through roads. When it came to tickets, I gave my share and my wallet went empty with just 20 bucks left. Anshul had to go into the mode where he had to really dig into the last note and coin to make up for the whole amount of the 4 tickets. Khanna, Kg had also had just about 10 bucks left in their wallets and we had just enough to pay for the bike parking. Once inside the hall we 3 laughed (KG not included) and shared a joke that a time will come when the whole of IRM will see this movie and we ( Me and anshul) would be the common people at all those movie screenings. After the movie got over, we all prayed that the fuel lasts until we get back and if the tanks go dry in between we would have just enough amount to buy a total of just 1 lt fuel and that too at such a odd time. Thank god we reached with no fines, no dry tanks.

The final tally read for that movie at 3-0 within a week of its release with me and anshul both being constant at screenings and the other people changing. Such was the craze or the effect that whenever we had to say “Phir milenge”, the other person used to say “full version” and we had to complete the sentence from the movie. “ Hum hain raahi pyaar ke, phir milenge chalte chalte”. This sentence is used still between anshul and me….the memories of this craziness linger on..Me, the guy who used to sense flunking in sems got my highest marks in those exams across all 4 exams I gave in those 2 years..Still don’t know how this magic happened, but it happened. This movie is treasured for these specific crazy incidents specially.

Years down the line anshul told me that the night he had to walk back alone to his room he was damn scared and prayed that no dog should go after him thinking him to be a thief…he ran like hell. What he told aunty when her call came, “Dost ke room par hoon, padne aaya hoon”(Yeah…anushka`s beauty!)….

This whole incident comes out from the fab treasure of some fond irm memories….anshul scared, coming up really funny lines, me going crazy over a movie, recruiting people to watch a movie, drooling over beauties, finding ways to get past possible obstructions, everything to make it a cool stress buster to laugh out, and relive those moments......